Leah Remini’s second season of Scientology and the Aftermath started off with a hammer blow to the church — a devastating episode about child molestation in Scientology that was condoned and covered up.
One of the women featured in that episode, Mirriam Francis, described what it was like to have a mother so dedicated to Scientology that even in 2013 she would not lift a finger to help Mirriam try to get justice after being assaulted for years by her own father.
Mirriam reached out to us this week to tell us that she has an awful coda to that story. She found a photograph, and it tells her even more about how she was victimized. Here’s what she sent us.
However, recently I realized that she actually chose the Church over me the day that she left me in Australia for nearly two years, in the sole care of my father, while she was pursuing her Sea Org career in Los Angeles. That was when the sexual abuse by my father began, when I was four years old.
A couple of months ago, I came across a photo that she had sent from Los Angeles at that time, on the back of which she wrote “Dreams do come true.”
My mother painted the series of L. Ron Hubbard oil paintings which are displayed at the LRH Life Exhibition in Los Angeles and are featured in the What Is Scientology book. She works at Golden Era Productions at Int Base near Hemet, and she is involved in the graphic designs for Scientology promotional materials, magazines, books and lectures.
As a parent myself I find it difficult to understand how someone like my mother leaves a child. I can only refer to the teachings of Scientology on the subject. There is a firm belief in Scientology that children are simply thetans (spiritual beings) in small bodies. I remember my mother telling me when I was a child that she knew who I was last lifetime. That I was a close male friend of hers who had passed away and went on to inhabit this (my) body. From that perspective, this reduces the parent-child relationship when the belief is that this lifetime is just a tiny speck on the “Whole Track” of lifetimes spanning before and after it.
In 2011, after leaving Scientology, when I first started receiving counselling for the sexual abuse, I called my mother to ask her questions that I had never felt brave enough to ask before. Questions like “When did you find out?” This opened up the conversation between us. Shortly after this I received an e-mail from her and here are some pieces from that e-mail.
In this part, she refers to my decision to “cut comm” that is in reference to me ending my relationship with my father…
“I’ve been thinking a lot on the last conversation we had and your messages, and what is the right thing… at first I wanted to rush off, get retributive and hurl fire and brimstone, all stirred up. I did go over this with my chaplain and asked her help, and her suggestions let me see there’s other alternatives. For one, even though you say you’ve cut comm and I am totally, totally, totally supportive of your decision on this, you may like to reconsider getting back in comm. The only reason I mention this is because in my experience I’ve found that the things I’ve avoided have been things that lingered on with doubts and irresolution. You know how you kinda get hung up in a ‘maybe…’ or ‘if…’?
“The thing is you know I am here and I’m doing what I’m doing because I think it’s the best thing. I feel that I’ve helped change things in the world for the better, and I can not turn my back on that despite sacrifices that seem sometimes beyond the norm. To me there is a future that goes beyond this life time and so in my own way I try to think there is a future for us together.
“Much in life makes us bitter, but I’ve also seen from my own auditing that where I’ve been sour and unforgiving and protesting victim, that there’s been something that I haven’t understood or that I didn’t see the whole picture on, and once those things were cleared up then I was free from holding onto old grudges and just went about creating my own life and future.”
My mother has referenced here a Scientology term — “protesting victim.” That means an unfounded dramatization of victimhood. In Scientology there is no recognition of someone being a victim of something. You are always responsible for everything that happens to you. Regardless of age or vulnerability.
In fact, when I was doing my leaving the Sea Org confessional at age seventeen, I was asked questions about the childhood sexual abuse as if I were the one who committed the crimes. That is how completely backwards it gets in Scientology with regard to sexual abuse. Meanwhile, my father was still a Sea Org member in good standing. To top it off, they forced me to sign an affidavit (not written by me) alleviating him and them of responsibility.
— Mirriam Francis
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Join Scientology and meet Tom Cruise!
Mike Rinder posted this flier at his blog today and we just had to grab it. We can never remember seeing Tom actually used in a flier like this. It’s for one of the Mexico City facilities…
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Posted by Tony Ortega on October 26, 2017 at 07:00
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