thank you!!

So now they are trying to co-opt the legacy of Nelson Mandela?

I will admit I flinched when I read Geir Isene’s blog entry about how there was something good in COB…his intensity, if I remember correctly. Not there yet ;-). Thank you for the good wishes, and same to you always. I think of you and Howdy like favorite uncles at the Bunker.

Thanks Casabeca. It’s been a long road for me and I’m not there yet. 1st time I met the Para$citology problem seeing what they did to my buddies. It was all black and white to me. It’s been that way for yrs now. Then I saw things like how Andreas dealt with Tory. And now I’ve been at VV and here and I’ve been learning not every thing is as black and white as I thought. Especially people, they have to have a chance to change. I’m still learning what to do with that when it comes to some people. I don’t know about finding good in every body but I’m learning to think some people can change if we give them a chance.

Sounds like you’ve been on your own trip through the same kind of thing. Good luck to you.

I really loved your comment yesterday about finding the good in everyone. My family of origin has almost all the probs of sci org…disconnection, abuse, humiliation, threats, money issues, a narcissist and a borderline (diagnosed by docs, not just me). Exhausting and frustrating to say the least.
I gained so much peace in life by realizing that people usually do the best they can with what they have. They did not go shopping for personality disorder, etc., it just is what it is. It does not mean we should leave empty of love people in charge tho!
By lowering expectations and accepting the whole person, while not accepting abuse or even spending time alone with the difficult ones, I have found a serenity I never thot possible.
Finding the good in others and accepting the journey is very compassionate of you. I think you are onto something very powerful! And I bet you use it at home since you have built a strong family with Mrs FOX, as I have with Mr Casa
I love your comments and wish you very well on your journey!

Absolutely not true.

You know, I left this out because it was becoming so epic, but a lot of the ones I was surprised about left not because of the money, house, apartment, cars,parties etc, but because the fact that I had done such a thing shook them, somehow shook their confidence in their own careers but especially their confidence in me as someone who.. I’m not sure, really.. Always made the right decisions (hard t believe, still…)?

Some literally seem to have thought I’d lost my mind, somehow…

We in Global Capitalism HQ are similarly aware that we would lose many so-called “friends” in a heartbeat if we were to lose our exalted position. The supermodels would flee with nary a thank-you if I announced that I was going to give up the trappings of the lifestyle and live like the other 99.99% lives. I wouldn’t even have to sell the waterfront estate, just announce that I’m cutting back a little bit on the summer party schedule.

Hell, if I were to charter the jet to make a little extra cash on the side, I am sure that some of the managing directors would never speak to me again. We are acutely aware that all the CEOs whose cell phones we have on speed dial, and who always pick up by the third ring would pretend they had never heard of us if we got out of the game.

Ironically, most of us spend lots of time fantasizing about how pleasant life would be if we could somehow manage to get out, even if it meant we got “disconnected” from our acquaintances in our current existence. The moral of the story: I agree with Rich — be true to who you are; money and alleged friends will never make up for the pain of knowing that you sold out.

Lliira, good for you for making a quality life with real substance when life dealt you a tough hand.